I was thinking about this when I was on the bus this morning…
I have found it unusual in my predominantly liberal circles to find people who believe when a woman has sex with a lot of different people, this is evidence of low moral character. On the other hand, people seem to think of sleeping around as being evidence of low self esteem. And I just think that’s bullshit. That plays right into the idea of female sexuality as being a commodity, and that women who have sex with a lot of people are selling their high value commodity at a low price. The intersection of capitalism and sexism. I’m so sick of that.
You can have sex with 30 people in a month and have good boundaries and self respect. You can not have sex with anybody in a year and still feel wonderful about yourself. And the reverse is true! Some people who are very promiscuous have terrible self esteem. And some people in monogamous relationships also have shitty self esteem. It’s just a false correlations
There is just no perfect algorithm between how much you’re getting, and how good you feel about yourself. Hook, line and sinker